Where do you draw the line?
I’ll be the first to admit updating every detail of one’s life on Facebook is enough for me to want to hide someone from my newsfeed. I don’t care about every little detail. And I’m sure there aren’t many who care about every detail of my life. So I hold back from sharing all the wedding things that excite me, I don’t want to ever act like it’s all about me.
That’s where wedding planning gets hard. I’m still me, but my life is changing. I’m certainly not the girl that is involved with every little detail, but this wedding is the biggest visible thing in my life that signifies how so very much will be changing. And when you see an old friend or you catch up over a cup of coffee you ask and tell about things that are new in your life. I’ve had a couple friends tell me to feel free to share because they know what it’s like, or they just are interested. I did have one interesting interaction though. I was conversing with an interested party about the wedding. They mentioned it was coming up soon and I responded “that it really is. At some point this week there will only be a hundred days to go!” an eavesdropper piped up, “you’re really scary you know that?” I guess they meant that I knew how many days were left. Little do they know the various wedding website places all send emails with countdowns in them nearly every day! Needless to say I was a bit flabbergasted and didn’t have a response, so just turned back to my conversation. It definitely made me reevaluate who I share things with, even when they ask.
But because change is pressing on my mind today, ill share some of my thoughts. Once our wedding day passes for the first time ever I won’t think of my parents house as my house. I’ll have my own that I’ll share with my husband. There will be no more spontaneous target trips with mom, ski days with dad, or a random weekend at the beach. I’ll be to far away for any of that. I’ll miss Andy’s 10th birthday and Alex will start high school without me around. Don’t even get me started on what I’ll miss in Kenzie. Brandon is away at college, so hopefully it won’t be that bad, as I’m hoping we come home for the holidays.
Don’t misunderstand me. I’ve been looking forward to marrying Bryan for a very long time. Four years to be exact. But no matter how excited I get about the prospect of the future, it will be big learning curve. College was one thing, I’d come home every couple months, but Mr Sailboat would go to his house, and I’d go to mine. Sure, I guess we are lucky our families live near each other, but that just means that once we are married we will spend every weekend we come home together, but will be splitting our time with our families. I’m sure that won’t be easy, but we will make it work.
How do the married people out there handle spending time with both families? Anyone in our situation?